Build Your Self-Confidence: Things to Tell Yourself in the Mirror

Tell Yourself in the Mirror

Have you been feeling depressed of late? Do you feel like your self-confidence is on the decline?

In today’s fast-paced world, society is continuously placing pressure on us. We are expected to perform better in our studies, work, and even family life. It may also seem like family members, and former classmates are light years ahead of you. Being proud and content of yourself is becoming wearisome in this harsh world. Many people have gone through or are currently going through what you are facing right now. It is perfectly normal.

In this post, we are going to look at ways to avoid feelings of self-destruction and build a more confident person.

The Voice in Your Head

Remember the last time you looked in the mirror? What did you tell yourself at that moment? Words that we tell ourselves are the key to either self-affirmation or destruction. You also cultivate feelings of love, kindness, and criticism.

Similarly, beauty and unattractiveness are both states of the mind. When you look at the mirror, you either see that smile or lips that pull everyone to you, or you focus on your flaws.

Look at your thoughts like a seed. You plant your ideas in your mind and cultivate them. As you sow, so you shall reap. Therefore, if you sow a seed of hatred, anger, and violence, you receive exactly that. If you plant a seed of beauty, love, and hospitality, you get just that.

Affirmations are whatever we think in mind or say by mouth. The dialogues that take place in our thoughts and all the self-talk are spurts of affirmation. These affirmations find their way into your subconscious mind and heavily influence how you think and behave.

Mirror Work

Mirror work is the time you take to talk to yourself in the mirror. It is spending time, not to put on make-up or comb hair, but looking at yourself straight in the eye and saying kind and loving things to yourself.

The mirror is the only tool that reflects the exact feelings you have for yourself. The moment you stare at a mirror, you immediately become self-aware of the things you have been resisting and what you let flow freely. You can tell those feelings that you have to change to have a successful and fulfilling life.

For most people, this might come across as a strenuous exercise. This is because the mirror brings out your most vulnerable parts of our inner-selves. The mirror brings us face to face with the inner child.

Daily Affirmations That Will Help Change Your Life

Here is a list of affirmations you should say to yourself daily for one month. You will begin experiencing a change in your life after this. Sometimes a reminder is all you need. Further, affirming yourself is cheaper compared to seeing a counselor or therapist.

  • I love and accept you the way you are– One thing that many people struggle with is love and acceptance for themselves. You need to realize that you are the only one who can teach yourself how to love. Further, you cannot give that which you do not have. This affirmation will make you learn to love yourself.
  • You are okay– Everything you do is to your best knowledge and ability. Whether you fail or succeed, know you did it to your best skill and expertise.
  • You are enough– Anyone who tells you that you are not enough is limited by their vision, knowledge, and skill. Do not let their limitations make you feel the same about yourself.
  • You can do it– These are some of the best words you can tell yourself before any challenge or test. They instill courage, strength, and hope.
  • I love your body– A firm and healthy relationship with your body will lead to happiness and health.
  • You are perfect as you are– This affirmation will help you let go of the desire to become what you are not or have what you don’t have.
  • You are strong– When thoughts of weakness and inability kick in, this statement will help you tackle them.
  • You are beautiful– Say this several times and see how your perceptions will change. Beauty comes from within.
  • Don’t listen to the negative thoughts from your mind– You might hear a lot of negative things coming from a lot of people. These words will let your brain block out those negative comments so your mind won’t repeat them to you.
  • You are valuable and worthy– Others will begin to see value in you if you value yourself. Remember, worth and value have nothing to do with money, material possessions, skills, or looks. Just being alive shows, you are valuable. You determine your value, not others.
  • Tomorrow will be better– If you have had a rough day in the office or at school, don’t let that bog you down. Remember, sleep can make a huge difference in how we handle pain or anger. Get yourself a good night’s sleep and get up tomorrow, ready to kick ass.
  • You are sexy– Define in your mind what is sexy. Do not let that definition of sexy be influenced by the media or other people. If you don’t find yourself sexy, your description needs to change.
  • I am proud of you– Being proud does not mean you boast of your achievements. It is being satisfied and finding pleasure in achievement. Being proud is the reward you give yourself for a success.
  • You make a difference in this world– You made a difference to the world the moment you were born. Your birth created an impact to your parents and family members. You have the potential to make a difference even if you are not close to the people around you.
  • In the end, everything will be okay– This should be your mantra when things get tough. You will find it very useful when managing through difficulties.

More Tips That Will Improve Your Self Image

Even though you might be committed to the mirror work every day, sometimes, it may not be enough. With the following tips, you will see a more significant impact

Set Practical and realistic goals– You need to be realistic about what you can and can’t do. It is normal to be astonished by the lifestyle and talents of celebrities, dream of being like them, earn millions, and leave fortunes. However, focus on your skills and how you can do what you do better without living in a fantasy. Make sure that whatever you do is worth it.

Set mini-goals – Break down your goals into smaller steps. Start with more achievable goals. These are the low-hanging fruits that will require minimal effort or that you can achieve naturally. These goals will boost your confidence, get you motivated, and help ignite a fire in you.

Compete with yourself– Social media is good, but on the downside, it increases the pressure we face in our daily lives. People we have known in the past and know presently post updates of their prosperity. You need to forget about your Facebook and Instagram friends who make you feel left out. Following them only makes you envious of their accomplishments that could probably not be genuine. Believe and start competing only with yourself.

Don’t be overly concerned about formal qualifications– Yes, the society expects you to have a degree at a certain age. You are also expected to have a 9-5 job once you finish school. But probably you never understand mathematical problems or chemistry class no matter how hard you try. Don’t get hung up on these qualifications. We are all abled differently, and you have your strengths too. Focus on these strengths and believe you can do it.

Choose your friends well– Friends are close people who influence the way we think and the words that come out of our mouths. Before you diagnose yourself with low self-esteem or depression, look around and make sure detestable people do not surround you. If you find that you are not pleased with the people around you, then you need to change your company.

Learn from your past mistakes– Man is to error, and errors should remain in the past. Do not waste time wallowing in self-pity and regret. Instead, be responsible and admit your mistakes. Analyze what went wrong, what you should have done differently, and learn from them. Not owning up to mistakes and working hard to cover them is associated with people with low self-esteem.


Facing the person in the mirror and speaking words of affirmation will help you build your self-confidence. Say things such as I love you, I’m proud of you, I’m beautiful and sexy, and tomorrow will be a better day helps you cope with low esteem. Further, watch the company you keep, set realistic goals, and learn from your past mistakes.

You might feel strange while starting. After a week or so, you’ll begin getting comfortable, and you will notice a change. If you do it for over three weeks, your subconscious will start believing what you tell it to be true. Confidence starts with you.